When to fight, when to start over

Nov. 9, 2014

Hi everyone,

As you know, forced to retire or be unemployed, the individuals I work with opt to start over instead of being poor me or rolling over and playing dead. Many start over people have not only lost careers or long-held paid employment positions but have, also, lost relationships, possessions and stored money. The cause is nearly always some form of economic tyranny.

These persons have adopted as their motto: “I have miles to go and promises to keep before I sleep”, written by Robert Frost, American poet.

Start Over or fight

This line has many meaning. Start over individuals interpret the phrase as meaning there isn’t time or energy to spend on vengeance. There is only the means to determine the cause of what happened to them, forgive, let go and move on.

However, most of the people in this group are old enough to know that the above isn’t always possible. Sometimes, the only way to survive is to stand one’s ground and fight until the enemy yells, “I quite. I surrender.” This is so for corporate foes as well as political ones.

The trick is to know when to fight and when to do the task of starting over.  There is only one way to know: ask the angels.

Ask the Angels

Angels of all of us,

As you know, we have chosen to start over. Our desire is to take what we have—our gifts, talents, skills and experiences—and build a new, greater and stronger life. This is possible. Individuals and groups, stripped of all they have, have rebuilt families, towns, and communities many times. Their stories and evidence they’ve left behind tell us this.

However, our history, also, tells us that sometimes it’s necessary to stand ground and fight those who aren’t satisfied with simply taking all we had; they, also, want to wipe us off the face of the planet.

We want to know when to devote all our energy to starting over and when to stand ground and fight before starting over.


Angels of all of us,

We listen and watch for your answer. We stay awake and aware. We continually pay attention. We know that answers come spontaneously without warning. Therefore, we are alert.

We know that you and God speak to us all the time. The gifts of the Universe—ideas, information, energy, support and nurturance—flow to us constantly. We are never without.

We know that as soon as we hear the answer to our question, we will instantly know, “This is the answer. This is truth”. We trust you to answer us; we trust our self to recognize what we hear as your answer.

Our promise

We promise to take immediate action. We won’t wait. We will take action immediately.

We know we are walking the path you set for us. Therefore, we walk, listen and observe with ease and joy.

We are grateful for life, ease and joy. We give thanks for every answer and for our ability to recognize what we hear and see as you speaking to us.

And so it is.



Barbara S Lucas

Contact me at barbaluc4@aol.com

Read my Start Over blog: startoverconsulting.net



Sept. 3, 2013


At the moment, most of us are thinking about peace and how much we desire it.  President Richard Nixon said that “peace is greater than the absence of war”; Jesus, the Master Teacher, said that “peace passes all understanding”.  In other words, we humans haven’t the faintest idea what peace is which is why peace conferences continually fail.

However, these gatherings have tremendous value: each brings us a tad closer to knowing peace.

I wonder if we would understand peace more if we stopped wanting life to be easy.  Life isn’t easy.  Many of us have learned to shun those who try to convince us that doing such and such will bring us ease.  Most of us realize that to win anything requires a struggle and, sometimes, we have to do more than struggle: we have to fight.

I wonder if we would know peace if we would admit that fighting is part of our experience instead of denying that it is.  I wonder what would happen if we acknowledged that to reach a goal, struggle was going to happen, and perhaps a fight or two, also.  I wonder if admitting and accepting struggle and fighting as part of what we do as humans would clear enough space for peace to enter and, perhaps, stay long enough for us to recognize, define and accept it.

As of today, I stop condemning my Self when I struggle; I stop thinking I’ve done something wrong when I have to fight for what I want; I remember the butterfly that struggles to leave it’s cocoon and then fights to dry its wings.  I recall that once it gains freedom, it flies with grace and ease.

I speak my word aloud that I struggle and fight with honor for that which is right and true.