When to fight, when to start over

Nov. 9, 2014

Hi everyone,

As you know, forced to retire or be unemployed, the individuals I work with opt to start over instead of being poor me or rolling over and playing dead. Many start over people have not only lost careers or long-held paid employment positions but have, also, lost relationships, possessions and stored money. The cause is nearly always some form of economic tyranny.

These persons have adopted as their motto: “I have miles to go and promises to keep before I sleep”, written by Robert Frost, American poet.

Start Over or fight

This line has many meaning. Start over individuals interpret the phrase as meaning there isn’t time or energy to spend on vengeance. There is only the means to determine the cause of what happened to them, forgive, let go and move on.

However, most of the people in this group are old enough to know that the above isn’t always possible. Sometimes, the only way to survive is to stand one’s ground and fight until the enemy yells, “I quite. I surrender.” This is so for corporate foes as well as political ones.

The trick is to know when to fight and when to do the task of starting over.  There is only one way to know: ask the angels.

Ask the Angels

Angels of all of us,

As you know, we have chosen to start over. Our desire is to take what we have—our gifts, talents, skills and experiences—and build a new, greater and stronger life. This is possible. Individuals and groups, stripped of all they have, have rebuilt families, towns, and communities many times. Their stories and evidence they’ve left behind tell us this.

However, our history, also, tells us that sometimes it’s necessary to stand ground and fight those who aren’t satisfied with simply taking all we had; they, also, want to wipe us off the face of the planet.

We want to know when to devote all our energy to starting over and when to stand ground and fight before starting over.


Angels of all of us,

We listen and watch for your answer. We stay awake and aware. We continually pay attention. We know that answers come spontaneously without warning. Therefore, we are alert.

We know that you and God speak to us all the time. The gifts of the Universe—ideas, information, energy, support and nurturance—flow to us constantly. We are never without.

We know that as soon as we hear the answer to our question, we will instantly know, “This is the answer. This is truth”. We trust you to answer us; we trust our self to recognize what we hear as your answer.

Our promise

We promise to take immediate action. We won’t wait. We will take action immediately.

We know we are walking the path you set for us. Therefore, we walk, listen and observe with ease and joy.

We are grateful for life, ease and joy. We give thanks for every answer and for our ability to recognize what we hear and see as you speaking to us.

And so it is.



Barbara S Lucas

Contact me at barbaluc4@aol.com

Read my Start Over blog: startoverconsulting.net


April 28, 2014


It’s been almost five years since I found my Self in the ash of Start Over.  As with most Start Over folks, most of this time has been spent in survival mode.

The Great Give-Away

Five years ago, I gave away almost all of my possessions.  At the time, I knew little about the rights of folks being evicted or foreclosed.  I was concerned that people would arrive unannounced and throw my beautiful things out into the environment where they would be unprotected and destroyed.  So, rather than see that happened, I gave nearly everything away.

I’ve been living without everything but the absolute necessities for health and safety.

I have a strong sense that doing without is almost over for me.  In these last several weeks, I’ve purchased several chairs and a dining table.


I would only do this if I had a strong sense of well-being and of confidence that all is well and will continue to be so.

Join me as I thank the angels and all those who only desire the highest and best for me and for all of us.

Angels of all of us

Angels of all of us, and to all who support us in being, doing and having the highest and the best:

Thank you for your continual support and protection.  Thank you for guiding us in the way that we should go.

Thank you for making certain that our paths cross with those and that which support us with advice, guidance and material goods.

Thank you for wisdom.  Thank you for helping us recognize and understand our options and our opportunities.

Thank you for presenting the truth, giving us the courage to stay in truth and the confidence to walk the way of truth.

We—those in Start Over, those who’ve decided to let the former life pass away and to create and live a new life—we are grateful for your constant presence, guidance, support and protection.

And so it is.



Also read:  http://startoverconsulting.net/

Contact me at: barbaluc4@aol.com